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by jilrani (jilrani)
at October 9th, 2008 (09:42 pm)

Sorry all for my lack of participation. RL work and family is just crazy right now!

Question: do any of you work at home? If so, do you and your spouse ever have conflicts that stem out of that?


Posted by: Zero (zerozander)
Posted at: October 10th, 2008 05:28 am (UTC)

Neither one of us work from home. However, my husband spends a ridiculous amount of time on the computer. He's a substitute teacher, so whenever he's not working, he's on the computer all day long. Studying, reading stuff on the web, watching t.v......

The first few years of our marriage were particularly difficult because of this. I failed to realize that computing was his hobby. His degree of computer analyst/programmer should have given that away, but I was dumb at that time. Another thing that complicated matters was that we argued so much, and had so many little problems that were blow out of proportion (a lot of that was my fault) that he just withdrew into his computer habit. It took me a while to realize what was going on.

At this point in our marriage, I've accepted the fact that he loves computers and technology and I'm A-OK with him spending so much time on it. In return, he realized that I existed, and he put more effort into our marriage. As did I. We've come a long way.

Posted by: Kristen (veruciolet)
Posted at: October 10th, 2008 02:31 pm (UTC)

Well, I'm basically a sahm, with a part-time evening job on Tues, Wed, and Thur evenings. Our conflicts stem from the fact that I'm chasing around a 2 year old toddler, and dealing with a fussy 4 month old all while cleaning the house, doing laundry, dishes, making lunches, trying to get myself ready for work and the kids ready to go to grandma's for the two hours before their dad can pick them up after he gets out of work, and I come home to a house that I just cleaned to find it a complete disaster. He claims he can't pick up because he has to deal with the kids by himself at night and he just doesn't have time, my point is, I'm doing the same thing, but I magically find the time. It's just not fair. But I adore him for the fact that I don't have to work, and I only go to work (as the evening receptionist at a beauty salon) to get some other adult interaction.

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